Why Attractive Women Love Jerks
I get a lot of emails from guys
that say things like...
"I'm sure what you're saying is right, but I don't
want to be a jerk or an asshole to women..."
"I have seen what you're talking about happen all
my life, but I'm a 'nice guy' and I want women to like
me for me..."
...and...
"This doesn't make sense..."
I'd like to address these ideas.
Up until about 5 years ago, I was THE nice guy
of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made
the decision to learn how to be successful with women,
this actually created an obstacle for me.
Let me explain...
Because I believed that "being a nice guy" MUST
be the way to success with women, I ACTUALLY COULDN'T
EVEN PERCEIVE ANY OTHER WAY.
In other words, I could see a situation where a
woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think
to myself that either she must be screwed up in the
head, or THAT THE GUY MUST BE REALLY NICE
TO HER THE REST OF THE TIME.
As you probably know, it's hard to convince a person
to believe something when they already have a belief
about the topic. The person that you're trying to
convince just uses whatever you say to convince themselves
that they're actually right... and you're wrong.
Well, I did the exact same thing.
No matter how much evidence I found to the contrary,
I still somehow believed that being a "nice" guy,
buying women flowers and gifts, taking them out, and
generally letting them be in control of the relationship
HAD to be the way to attract them.
Well, after continuing along the same path and
getting the same results, I realized something that
literally changed EVERYTHING for me.
I realized that JERKS do, in fact, attract hot
women.
Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might sound,
often makes women feel attracted to you.
Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get, and
all kinds of other "illogical" things really do work
when it comes to attracting women.
But then I had a dilemma...
I love the idea of being successful with women,
but I HATE the idea of mistreating people, being mean
to them, lying and misleading, etc.
Deep down, I want to be a good guy.
I decided that there MUST be a way to make this
work, and to attract women without being ABUSIVE.
The good news is that THERE IS a way.
But it requires that you put aside your current
ideas for just long enough to entertain some new ones.
First, let me say that I believe I've found a way
to take the things that JERKS do to attract women
and use them WITHOUT THE ABUSE. When you learn to do
this, you can really have the best of both worlds...
you can be nice to women on your own terms, and give
them what they REALLY want, and what REALLY attracts
them.
So WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?
The short answer is that they don't CHOOSE it,
it's something that just HAPPENS.
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.
It's an emotional response to certain things.
Women don't CHOOSE to feel the emotion called
ATTRACTION for jerks any more than YOU choose to feel
the emotion called ATTRACTION for young, beautiful,
hardbodied women.
Nature has pre-programmed MEN with a mechanism
that works like this:
SEE HOT WOMEN ---> FEEL ATTRACTION
Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I think
that the female version is MORE COMPLEX.
Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely handsome
men... but they feel a MUCH STRONGER ATTRACTION for
certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and BEHAVIORS than they
do for physical looks alone.
So again, the short answer is that it's just something
that "happens" inside of a women. She doesn't "choose"
it.
If you want the long answer to this, check out
my CD Series "Advance Dating Techniques". I've spent
a long time figuring this one out, and I guarantee
that it will blow your mind when you find out what's
REALLY going on...
So what is it about the "jerk" that creates this
powerful, uncontrollable ATTRACTION inside of women?
Let me answer first by telling you what IT'S NOT:
It's NOT the abuse (not usually anyway). I don't
believe that women are attracted to that abusive,
mean, negative part of the "jerk personality".
I think that jerks JUST HAPPEN to also possess
several ATTRACTIVE qualities that are SO POWERFUL
that that they literally make women BLIND to the abuse...
women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior
because they are so attracted to these other qualities.
Here's a PARTIAL list of what creates that ATTRACTION:
-Unpredictability
-Uncontrollable
-Challenge
-Dominance
Of course, there are many more, but this will get
us started for this discussion.
The qualities I've listed above, when presented
correctly, trigger the natural "attraction mechanism"
inside of women.
Jerks have taken natural qualities that are ATTRACTIVE
to women a little "too far".
But because they're still there, the qualities
trigger the attraction anyway.
So what does this mean to you?
Well, the most important thing is that it means
you can still be a good guy and attract women at the
same time.
You're probably going to have to learn how to flirt
in a different way, become a little more comfortable
being challenging to women, etc. But in the end, you'll
find that this will get you what you want, and still
allow you to treat women well... all on your own terms.
It also means that instead of being the guy who
women talk to about their relationship problems, and
how their mean jerk boyfriend is being abusive again...
you can be the guy who they're dating and sleeping with!
Yes!
This weekend I'd like you to think about what I've
said here in this newsletter.
Think about how you can cultivate the four qualities
that I've mentioned above into your personality.
See if you can be a little less predictable.
Don't let outside events or women control you.
Be more of a challenge.
Stop being submissive... and get in touch with that
side of you that is more dominant (I said "dominant",
not "domineering").
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