How To KEEP A Woman
Attracted To You
I often talk about the concept of ATTRACTION,
and why it's more important than anything else when
it comes to being successful with women and dating.
The reason is simple:
If a woman feels no ATTRACTION for you, then
she's not going to want to be anything other than
FRIENDS with you.
There are a couple of exceptions:
1) If she wants something from you
2) If you've pursued her for so long that she
finally "falls into affection" with you - and
decides that you're probably marriage material
There are probably other exceptions, but these
two cover about 99.97873% of the situations you'll
run into.
The bottom line:
If you want to a woman to be more than FRIENDS
with you, then you're going to need to trigger
ATTRACTION inside of her (another great benefit is
that you will be more in control of the direction
of the relationship, too).
Well, one of the amazing aspects of ATTRACTION
is that it can be TURNED UP. You can actually
AMPLIFY an initial attraction... if you know how.
Of course, if you DON'T know what you're doing,
you can also DESTROY a woman's attraction to you as
well (without realizing it). This happens a lot
more often than you might think... as most men
don't have any idea when a woman is attracted to
them.
Also, if you don't know how to AMPLIFY
ATTRACTION, then you're most likely GOING to
destroy it whenever you do accidentally create it.
I'd like to talk to you about two important
concepts when it comes to AMPLIFYING attraction.
You may have heard me mention them before.
Here they are:
1) TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK.
2) NEVER LET THE LINE GO SLACK.
It's kind of hot that they rhyme, too.
So let's talk about these two concepts and how
you can use them to amplify and accelerate this
wonderful physical and emotional state called
ATTRACTION inside of women.
TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK
I realized a few years ago that women don't get
"turned on" the same way men do (duh). I know, I
know... I'm not so bright. It's pretty obvious.
But, more importantly, I learned that men get
turned on like "light switches", and women get
turned on more like "volume knobs".
A man can go from being not interested in sex to
completely ready and totally turned on in about 30
seconds. Hell, it's probably more like 3 seconds. Or
.3 seconds.
Women, on the other hand, usually start out with
a spark of attraction, and if the situation goes the
right way, she gets more and more turned on... to
the point where she's ready to have sex.
This can happen relatively quickly, but it
usually takes HOURS.
One technique you can use to actually AMPLIFY
any initial attraction that a woman feels is to use
the technique that I call "Two steps forward, one
step back".
This simply means progressing a little bit (like
maybe kissing her) and then stepping back for a
little while (maybe leaning back and holding her
hand or not touching at all)... and then moving two
steps forward again (maybe kissing her, then
kissing her neck)... and stopping again... and so
on.
This builds up anticipation. It makes her think
about what's happening... and want it more and
more.
Women love to be given a little bit, then
teased... so they are waiting in anticipation of
what's going to come next. Of course, since you
keep taking a step back each time, it even
amplifies the anticipation and sexual tension
further.
Now, a MAN wouldn't usually say "do this a
little bit, then stop and tease me so I want it
more". For most men, this sounds like a foreign
concept unknown in these parts.
Crazy talk, even.
But not for women.
If you doubt me, find the nearest attractive
woman and read her what I just wrote. And watch her
face between paragraphs.
You'll see. And you just might learn something.
NEVER LET THE LINE GO SLACK
Once you start to "get" how this process
of
women getting turned on works, you're going to need
a way to gauge how fast or slow to go... and to
keep a woman interested without turning into a
WussBoy who calls her 10 times a day.
I call this concept "Never let the line go
slack".
Imagine that you are holding one end of a rope,
and the woman is holding the other end. Both of you
are pulling gently... enough to keep TENSION in the
line.
It's a little game.
If she starts pulling, you need to give her a
little bit of slack... but not so much that she
gets it all. And if she starts letting go, you need
to pull a little more to take up the slack and keep
the TENSION up.
This is a great metaphor for the concept of
SEXUAL TENSION.
Most men haven't the SLIGHTEST IDEA IN THE WORLD
what sexual tension is. But ALL women know what it
is...
Sexual tension is a key to success with women.
So imagine that you're out with a woman for the
second time.
On the first date you held hands and kissed, and
on this date you're walking around in the mall
together.
Let's say you've been teasing her a little bit,
and she's been hitting you and saying "stop it!",
but she's laughing so you know that she's having
fun.
Further, let's say that you've teased her so
much that you can tell that it's actually starting
to get to her. Maybe you were teasing her about her
shoes being ugly, and she stops after the tenth
joke and asks "Wow, do you really think my shoes
are that ugly?"
At this point, she's letting go of the line a
bit... and you need to do something about it to
keep the tension up.
So you might say "Oh, no... they're not that
bad... I'm just giving you a hard time".
At which point she might say "Wow, good. I was
starting to worry that you really hated them and
that it was bothering you".
And now you have the opposite situation... both
of you are letting the line go slack at the same
time with this whole "No, I think your shoes are
fine" and her saying "Oh, I'm glad you were just
teasing me" thing.
So you have to do something!
You might say "Well, if worse comes to worse you
can always donate them to the Salvation Army so a
needy girl who doesn't care if her shoes are ugly
can have them".
You'll probably get hit, but it puts the tension
back in the line again!
Of course, there's an art to doing this
correctly, and you will improve with practice.
You can use this in just about every area
imaginable, from how often you call a woman to
being able to tell when it's appropriate to give a
compliment (and then say something to take it back
in a funny way!).
The problem is that most guys let things go too
far in one direction... they call every day for a
week instead of letting the woman call them back a
couple of times, and waiting a couple or a few days
to call.
Or they hang on a woman's arm every minute when
they go out together, rather than giving the woman
some space and letting her come find him.
Or they give a woman a compliment, which the
woman appreciates, then they start giving her one
after the other after the other... which comes
across as ULTRA WUSSY KISS ASS BOY... and drives
the woman away.
Don't do to much of anything... and never let
the line go slack for too long!
When you use these two concepts together, you
will find that not only will a woman become FAR
more attracted to you, but she'll STAY THAT WAY for
as long as you want her to.
If you DON'T do these two things, then you're
probably going to find that women will do things
that make no sense to you, and they'll RARELY want
to be anything more than "just friends", because
they just don't "feel it" for you.
I have some more valuable advice for you.
If you're reading this stuff and thinking to
yourself "I really need to learn more about this"...
because you'd like to be more successful with
women... then I agree 100%!
Consistent success with women isn't ACCIDENTAL.
You might "get lucky" once in awhile because
you're in the right place at the right time... or
because you find a girl that just happens to be
feeling as need as you...
But consistent, long-term success with women is
the result of UNDERSTANDING how attraction works for
women... and then being able to trigger it and
amplify it.
And if you'd like an introduction to my main concepts
and to learn the basics of how to be more successful
with women and dating, then go right now and download
my eBook "Double Your Dating". It comes with three
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Talk to you again soon.
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