Something Single Women Hate - Don't Do It
"You can't bore a woman into feeling attracted
to you..."
I realize that this may sound like an obvious
statement, but judging by the emails that I get week
in and week out, maybe it's not as obvious as it might
seem to some guys.
In fact, when I think back on my own experiences
with women, I am DEFINITELY guilty of trying to bore
women into feeling attracted to me...
So what do I mean by this silly sounding statement?
Well, let's start with some ideas that I hear
in one form or another all the time.
"I was a perfect gentleman on our date, but she didn't
call me back, and I can't reach her..."
"I don't want to use any 'techniques' with women because
I feel like that would be 'manipulating' her..."
"I want a girl who will like me for who I am..."
"I give her everything she wants, take her out, buy
her things, and I don't understand why she doesn't
feel the same way towards me that I feel towards her..."
"She tells me that she only likes me as a friend,
then she goes out with these guys who treat her like
crap instead of going out with a guy like me that
would treat her wonderfully and give her everything
she wants..."
And the list goes on and on...
Now, I realize that these statements are actually
different from each other, and deal with different
issues. But the common denominator in each of them
is:
YOU'RE NOT BEHAVING IN A WAY THAT IS PUSHING HER
ATTRACTION BUTTONS. IN MOST OF THESE CASES, YOU'RE
GUILTY OF TRYING TO BORE HER INTO FEELING ATTRACTED TO
YOU.
I got one letter recently where a guy was telling
me that he had taken a girl out on a date, but that
there wasn't any "spark"... but he still felt attracted
to the girl. He seemed to think that just because
nothing obvious was BAD about the date, that this
girl should also feel attracted to him. (Maybe he
thought that a few more uninteresting, boring dates
would cause her to open her eyes and see the light).
Here are a few common problems that lead to "BORING
DATE-ITIS":
1. Playing it "safe", following her lead, not saying
anything you think will upset her, and making sure
that you're "proper".
2. Talking about BORING things like jobs, family,
weather, etc. because it's "what people talk about
to get to know each other."
3. Being boring.
PLAYING IT SAFE
I can remember when I thought that the proper
way to act on a date was to talk about socially acceptable
topics, act sterile and quiet, and generally try to
make sure that she got whatever she wanted.
Oh, was this a huge mistake.
Generally speaking, women are BORED TO DEATH BY
THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR.
When you meet a girl for a cup of tea or go out
to dinner, it's time to have FUN, not to be her personal
ass kisser!
Playing it safe and kissing up to her is a sure
way to get either an expensive relationship or a woman
who won't call you back.
TALKING ABOUT BORING THINGS
Don't talk about your job and your family!
BORING!
Guys who are trying to convince women that they're
"nice" talk about their families (If you really want
to be a loser, carry pictures around with you and
show them off.).
Talking about families is "courtship" behavior,
and it will put her into the old "this guy is boring"
frame of mind. Unless you're related to John F. Kennedy
or someone even more interesting, keep the family
history to yourself!
BEING BORING
So what does a "boring" guy act like?
Well, for starters he acts like he's NOT
COMFORTABLE in the situation...
Nervous smiles. Apologizing. Agreeing with her
opinions all the time. Asking her what she'd like to
do. Holding your body in an unsure, insecure way.
That's a good start.
Mix in a few uncomfortable silences and you've
got the makings for her running as fast as she can
and changing her phone number to save herself from
another one of your boring calls!
So what's the answer? What's the secret to making
her feel attracted to you, and not BORED OUT OF HER
SKULL?
I thought you'd never ask.
Here are a few ideas for starters:
1. Take her somewhere that has a lot going on...
somewhere that has interesting conversation built
in. I like funky areas that have lots of eclectic,
artsy, trendy shops. You can't walk through one of
these areas without having an interesting conversation.
There are all kinds of interesting things from
tattoo artists to funky hat shops to ultra-trendy
clothing stores. Most cities have an area like this,
and I'd suggest you go check it out.
2. Talk about something that isn't BORING. One of
my favorite things to do is get her to talk about
her life, then find things to make fun of. This is
a great opportunity for cocky and funny...
YOU: "So, tell me something interesting."
HER: "Like what?"
YOU: "What, you can't think of even ONE interesting
think about yourself or your life? I think I need
to go before this gets any worse..."
You get the idea...
3. If there is a silence, NEVER let it be uncomfortable.
I think that it's great to stop talking when you're
first getting to know a woman. But don't do it in a
way that sends chills up her spine.
If the conversation goes cold for a few moments,
just pay attention to something else for a minute. Think
about something funny to say and laugh to yourself.
She'll say "What? What are you laughing about?"... which
is a great lead in for about 1,000 different cocky/funny
answers.
If the conversation stops, be cool. Just act like
you're with a friend, act totally casual, and pick
it back up later. Just don't ACT nervous and uncomfortable!
4. DON'T BE PREDICTABLE. There is an area of the human
brain called "Broca's Region" that is constantly
anticipating what is about to happen, then discounting
the predictable. In other words, the more predicable
you are, the faster you will be considered BORING.
Learn to say random things. Disagree with her...
(without sounding like a whiny little girl). Tell
her that you think Britney Spears looks like a dog...
If you’re boring, read a couple of books on how
to tell stories… or get a book on comedy to learn
how to be funny and tell jokes.
JUST DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO AVOID BEING
PREDICTABLE! And do whatever you have to do to learn
how to make women feel ATTRACTION.
OK, I think you're getting the idea.
Women don't want BORING. A woman would rather
be with an interesting, fun guy than with a RICH,
HANDSOME, PREDICTABLE, BORING one (and the women who
want the rich boring guy are often boring themselves...).
Once a woman starts to feel that magical emotional
and physical response called ATTRACTION, the entire
situation changes, and you start having the kinds of
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